Books, Reviews

The Art of Getting through a Self-Help Book

About a year ago or a little more-ish, I bought a subscription to Audible. I don’t know if it was just me aging, having no time to do anything, or if it was just me having zero attention span, but sitting and reading books just wasn’t cutting it. I still loved being absorbed in a great book, being taken away to far of places etc. etc. etc. [Insert trope about a love of reading]. So Audible basically saved me. Again, no pitch here or magical kick back of free months for me.. Audible is just awesome.

So I’ve “read” 30+ books on Audible. Listening is reading and I realize some people disagree with that. Be Elsa people — Let it go. The one group of books that I have strategically stayed away from is Self-Help Books. Now, I have a few including F*ck Feelings which is awesome and this bright yellow book that sits on the bookshelf in the living room. Not only funny but also a great conversation starter at dinner parties. Seriously, you should try it! But one book just kept coming back up on my list. Besides the fact that I was worried how much Amazon was tracking me and what red flags they were seeing, I was a little bit intrigued. Enter… UnFu*k Yourself by Gary John Bishop. I mean, it goes with my vulgar word themed self-help books so why not.

The cover of Unfu*k yourself the bookFrom here forward because I am tired of typing *, I will just call this “The Book.” So the premise of the book is that there are a few key tips to basically just fix all the problems in your life.

From “Unfu*k Yourself is a refreshing, BS-free, self-empowerment guide that offers an honest, no-nonsense, tough-love approach to help you move past self-imposed limitations. Lead the life you were meant to have—Unfu*k Yourself.”

I don’t know if refreshing would be the word I would choose. Aggressive? Let me start by saying that the audiobook is read by the author himself, who is Scottish which is awesome. But for some reason I just couldn’t stop feeling like I was on the set of Braveheart about to go into battle. I already have enough stress in my life without a Scotsman yelling at me for 3.5 hours. However, like a good soldier I continued on and I did complete the book.

A highland cattle lounging on grass.
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There are things in this book which are awesome and about 20 bazillion quotes I could put in my bullet journal (there was one in my August Flip through actually.) so if you’re into self help books– do it. You’ll probably love it. However, this is not a starter self-help book.

The general idea is if you change the way you talk to yourself (be nice), if you want to change (something I don’t know if I think about often), know that every problem is solvable (come on.. I work in tech support I already know this one), that you are your own worst enemy (duh), and your thoughts don’t control you (have you met my thoughts?). The last one is to expect nothing and accept everyone which reminds me of the quote which is engraved on the back of my iPad– I did this a while ago.. don’t judge me.

Act without expectation. -Lao Tzu

Out of all the take aways from this book, that is probably one of the bigger ones that I needed a refresher on. So while the audiobook of this might be a bit tough for some people (unless you love Braveheart), the paper copy might not be a bad thing to have around.

Who knows if you have a copy of F*ck Feelings and UnFu*k Yourself on your bookshelf, who knows what conversations you might have.

I’d say **** Astericks of a rating for this book, worth a read or a listen if you can handle it.

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